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Tuesday, June 21, 2005

Bend the Boyfriends Over

At a recent product meeting at the Stockroom (Yes, we do have meetings- we don’t just run around trying out sex toy products all day!) I was curious about the sales of the amazing Feeldoe - a delicious double-headed dildo that can be used without a strap-on. It’s one of our top sellers. I asked, oh so innocently, “Do we have that many lesbians buying this?” I was answered very enthusiastically, “It’s mostly straight couples buying it! Everyone wants to bend over their boyfriend.” How bad ass is that? (No pun intended!) My heart swelled with love as I pictured all these gals all over the country making their male counterpart take it up his hungry pink pucker. I am terribly excited about this trend for many reasons:

A. It’s a loving tribute to the phrase, “Turnabout is fair play.” Having been on both ends of the… ahem… stick, I can confidently say that it is a revelation being the Penetrator after enjoying for years the sensation of being the Penetrated. No one can deny that penetrating is a powerful feeling. Why should all the straight girls of the world miss out? And there is nothing like making your lover wait with breathless anticipation while you buckle on a mighty strap-on and choose just the right dildo for the job. Whew. Is it getting hot in here?

B. This act is the great equalizer. Now he knows what it feels like. This gives a guy a chance to let her take over. Grab the wheel and let her drive. Plus, guys have this magic spot called the Prostate that makes this ride well worth he trip.

c. And what better way for a woman to experience playing the part of the Top or the Dominant than to take him where he is most vulnerable?

My favorite married gal had these great points when I brought up the topic: 1) stuff in your butt doesn't make you gay 2) don't start with something that looks like a big cock 3) don't strap it on to start, tiny butt plugs rock 4) male g-spot/prostate 5) dogs like to chew on butt plugs, so don't leave them lying around the house

She told me she’s lost two plugs already! Learn from this!

I was surfing the web a bit and found a hilarious article written by “Raunchy Love” for a Canadian University, sighting rising popularity of the Bend Over Boyfriend trend. Raunchy wrote: “Yes, ‘Pegging’ is a craze that’s been sweeping the nation faster than Canadian Idol and it’s all about gals playing ‘quarterback’ and their boyfriends playing ‘tight-end.’” Love those Canadians and their football metaphors.

The grand cheerleader of hetero butt-sex, Tristan Taormino, has dedicated lots of energy to the cause and helped developed Liberator Wedges and Ramps that make bend over positions all the more accessible and sexy.

And then there are Bend Over Beginner starting kits and the Bend Over Boyfriend Instructional DVDs and Videos by a hero of mine, Dr. Carol Queen. These are great starter tools for the curious and the uninitiated.

I haven’t heard much open discussion from hetero men about this, but maybe that’s part of the appeal. The juicy secret of hidden submission and pleasure between a man and a woman cannot be overestimated. But hey- if any of you readers out there have some helpful/entertaining insights to share, I’d love to hear them. Until then, pucker up, boys.


At 6/24/2005 12:27 PM, Anonymous said...

well, just remember that to use that feeldoe without a harness, ya gotta do those kegelcises. i really love the quick convenience of using it without a harness, but when the bumpin gets rowdy, beware: you don't want it to pop out of you (the wearer) at the wrong moment. it's happened to me a few times and it can be exasperating (or, if you're a bit shy, even a little embarrassing!) :o ... it also works great with the black swirl corsette harness—but first remove the front patch of velvet. it's my fave b/c it'll fit in your purse and it's machine washable!!!

At 6/27/2005 3:58 PM, Lucky Lana said...

I love the helpful tips. Anyone who can mention kegel exercises and velvet in one conversation is a friend in my book!

At 6/28/2005 4:26 PM, Anonymous said...

My mistress has used this interesting item on me quite a bit, though, not as much as I would like. I must say, I love it. I was actually intimidated by it at first, but after a while it grew on me. Its always been a bit of a fantasy of mine to be taken by a "chick with a dick," who knew this toy would be the fix for that craving. At this point, I must say before you jump to the big guns (or just your good ole' feeldoe), read the book Anal Health and Pleasure by Dr. Jack Morin. I know it sounds weird to read a book about your healthy ass... but it seriously works. I was not able to enjoy much more than an index finger before and now I can take much much more because I did a good amount of research before making a mistake.

Lucky Lana, thank you for giving me space to write out my pleasure with this amazing toy.

Mistress, thank you for the intense pleasures I eagerly wait for.

the boy.

At 6/29/2005 4:17 PM, Anonymous said...

it's so great to hear the comments! I've never gotten my guy to the feeldoe stage, but I'm hoping these comments serve as inspiration! :)

Thanks kinky Lana!!

At 6/30/2005 9:51 AM, Anonymous said...

bend over your bear?

At 7/17/2005 4:13 PM, Anonymous said...

Love that bear post....

For those of you with feeldoe experience.... could you, would you.. please answer some questions at ...

I'm trying to organize feedback for the future direction of the feeldoe. Mia, feeldoe's momma, is looking into making changes that users are chatting about.

No.... I'm not paid.... but I want the best possible toy when I finally buy one... and feeldoe looks like the best bet.

I hope this wasn't too intrusive.... but you should all know that Mia tries to answer all the email she gets. I'd love to see a feeldoe in every bedside table. The men of the world need it!

uptoplay2 at yahoo.

At 9/21/2005 4:59 AM, Mr. W said...

I can tell you that I've written a couple of times about the Feeldoe. This the best sex toy out there right now. Not sure if it's all the latest rage here in America but I think it's fairly important for guys to realize point #1 that your friend made: taking it in the butt doesn't make you gay. It just makes you that much more sexually enlightened. And hell, who am I to deny myself additional pleasure??

At 2/02/2006 3:51 AM, Anonymous said...

Two urgent items!

1) the "terra firma" harness still slips around when i'm using it on my man. the thigh straps just never seem to get tight enough. and i'm not skinny.

2) my FAV: a jelly vibrator with a vibe on the inside, and then a nubbed vibe right where it meets the clitoris. but--a lame elastic strap that won't stay put.

i really want a good vibe against my clit while i'm fucking him. it seems i;ve looked everywhere. any suggestions?

At 2/18/2006 8:37 PM, Anonymous said...

Another option, since without a harness the feeldoe can be hard for the woman to hold, turn it around and use it as Mia first planned for men. With the pony held by the man, there's still plenty of fun to be had by your lady!

At 5/26/2006 3:58 AM, Anonymous said...

I love when my wife uses it on me....

great O's for both...

At 8/08/2006 3:45 PM, Aiden said...

I just started using this with my neighbor and so far it has been mind blowing.



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